Of Fantasies and Fandoms

eyecandyburns:

twudle:

and then suddenly everyone swapped colors.

DAVE

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csdragon:

pirateskates:

typette:

“mommy he wont stop touching me make him stop”

“aww that just means he likes you, honey”

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I am so glad you changed the caption on this. The first time I saw this post it said “LOL FRIENDZONED”.

How about no. Teach that little boy to stop touching when told instead of teaching the little girl to shut up and passively accept it, even if she doesn’t like it. These are the basic teachings children will use their entire lives when interacting with others and you’re doing it wrong.

This has absolutely nothing to do with

1) The Friend Zone

2) Feminism

3) Love at all really

First of all, despite the fact I used this as point 2, if the genders were reversed, the mother would probably have said the same thing. It’s about toddlers being toddlers and that’s it. Yes, the captioned mother should get him to stop, but she’s not a horrible person for effectively saying “d’awww toddlers being silly”

Second, some toddlers are clingy, others need their space. Both of these are just toddler quirks and there’s nothing really anyone can do about it. They’ll both grow out of it. He’s being clingy not because he loves her and is trying to display his affection, but because he’s a clingy toddler who needs something to cling on to.

Third, whoever commented “lol friendzoned” was joking why would you take that seriously.

They’re stupid to, as the definition of a friendzone is “not being romantically compatible because one thinks of the other as a friend and nothing more” it does not mean what tumblr feminism seems to think it means which is “women are villainized for saying no”. That’s not what it means!

#CSDragon hates on easily offended tumblr social activists who think every little thing is descrimination.

I think the point was that the situation was handled poorly — especially considering the way women are still treated in today’s society. Age doesn’t change the fact that this is a boy interacting with a girl in a way that upsets her. If he’s just being a clingy toddler, fine, but then it’s the parent’s responsibility to find him something appropriate to cling to. This is true even if the genders are reversed. It is no more appropriate for a girl to treat a boy in a manner that makes him uncomfortable. 

What shouldn’t happen is exactly what was described: “Get over it.” Because that teaches the toddlers two things: first, that it doesn’t matter if you’re uncomfortable with the situation, and two, that it doesn’t matter if you’re making someone else uncomfortable. Young people are pretty impressionable. Also, I know that toddlers are kind of bouncy, but I worry about that little boy getting hurt if he doesn’t stop. Just a simple, “sweetie, she doesn’t like that. Maybe you should try playing a different way?” would do. It doesn’t have to be complicated. 

This is doubly important because what is pictured above, in cute little gifs, is something adult women have to deal with all the time. Some men think it is perfectly acceptable to continue pressing themselves on a woman when she has made it clear she is not interested. This rarely happens with the genders reversed, and is something our society needs to work on changing. Is this gif set a feminist problem? No, not really. But it is eerily similar to one. I get that you’re trying to point out people are reading too far into some gifs of toddlers, but it comes off as belittling a rather serious problem. If the pictures had contained adults, this would be a little disturbing. 

I…almost don’t want to touch the friendzone thing, but hey, I’m here, so let’s do this. You’re right, that is the definition of friendzone. But what tumblr is responding to, and what you seem to be upset by, is how friendzone is commonly used. Words evolve, and it’s not really fair to consider a word by its definition alone, and ignore how culture treats it. It’s like complaining that “gay” means “happy” and people should stop tagging homosexual stuff as gay. After a point, it stops making sense.

missmurrka:

snoipahkat:

HAWKEYE NO……

(based on THIS)

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